I’ve come to the realisation recently that for all the energy I put into communicating on social media I get very little in return.
I have shared information about my life on a pretty regular basis and sure I’ll sometimes get a large number of ‘likes’ and that’s cool.
But I have recently cut right back on my social media use and I discovered that nobody cares.
Everyone is too busy posting photos on Instagram of their kids or holiday. Some post selfies wearing their new outfit or their new haircut. Everyone is too busy telling me how #blessed they are and quite frankly I’m over it.
I don’t mean to be a Negative Nelly. I’m happy you are enjoying your holiday and that your kid has learned how to poo in the toilet, that’s great, good for you. I’m just a little sad that nobody seems to notice when I’m gone (which I know is ridiculous, I clearly need to get a life!). I only jumped onto fb a couple of times last week to post a funny video on a friend’s timeline and to share last week’s blog post. For me that is cutting social media use by quite a lot. I’m also trying to not get caught in the trap of scrolling through my newsfeed. It used to be a way of catching up with people but these days it’s mostly just a trap of comparing and debating.
I realise this is very much a first world problem and I’m probably being a drama queen but it is frustrating trying to break a habit of fake socialising and trying to figure out how to be a real person in the real world. I was never good at it to begin with but now my social media addiction has made socialising more difficult. I’m out of practice. I’ve spent years looking at photos of other people’s weddings and parties (that I wasn’t invited to) and have forgotten how to deal with the social practices at such events in real life.
I can stalk people online but don’t know how to interact with them in person. It is so much easier just to check a person’s timeline rather than to call them and ask them how they are. Social media is anything but social, but it makes you feel like you’re being social which for aspies can seem quite liberating, but it’s a trap. It can suck the life out of you.
When people stop ‘liking’ my photos and status updates I can easily feel like I’m not being listened to. I can feel like the unpopular kid at highschool, which is an unhealthy way to deal with social media. If anything when it comes to social media (or life in general) you really need to be secure in yourself. I’m learning to truly not care. Today I plan to get out of the house and just hang. I’ll probably go to the local library, run some errands, just do whatever. I’ll have my phone with me but I won’t have internet on because I don’t have credit. I’m going to pay some attention to the real world today.
Taking a step back from social media should help, I hope.